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It’s estimated that about 10% of women have never experienced the joys of reaching a climax. And it doesn’t matter what type of ‘lovemaking’ they engage in. Whether it’s with a partner or via masturbation, some women simply cannot seem to find the road to the Big O.

This has led countless women to seek sex counseling and in my practice, I’ve had the opportunity to share what some ’secrets’ that have helped countless women get out of that 10% statistic.

The secret is actually all about tension and relaxation. It may sound like an oxymoron now but read on below to know more!

The Road To Climax Tip #1: Tense Those Muscles

On one hand, you can’t help but tense up during intercourse right? After all, all that stimulation gets the blood flowing, which in turn heightens sexual arousal. The problem is some women tend to relax the muscles or tissues that contract while making love. Why?

For one, some women tend to be passive in bed. But let me assure you the days of ‘lying there and receiving it’ are over. If you want an orgasm, you better get up there and participate! And yes, tense your muscles while you’re at it.

For example, while in the woman on top position, squeeze your pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). These are the same muscles you use when you try to stop the flow of your pee. By contracting these muscles, not only are you giving your man pleasure by gripping his penis, you are also increasing the friction between your genitals, thereby increasing sexual pleasure (which is supposed to push to you a wonderful climax).

The Road To Climax Tip #2: Relax Your Mind

The relaxation part comes in the form of letting go of your thoughts. We women can be so BUSY up there! Seriously, do you really have to make a mental note that you need to pick up something from the dry cleaners tomorrow while riding him now?!?

So free your mind, relax, and just let the erotic pleasures that sex bring you wash over you.

If relaxing is hard for you, take cue from the silent radio technique that’s employed a lot in area where people have to fall in line. Notice that electronic billboard that shows snippets of news from left to right? It draws your attention to it doesn’t it?

So, next time you make love, plaster that electronic billboard in your mind with sentences like “omg… his penis is REALLY hitting it now!” or “here it comes, here it comes, here it comes!”. By focusing your thoughts on the pleasures that are ravaging over your body, you’ll hopefully be able to finally experience a climax.

Rmember, to reach the Big O, tense your muscles but relax your mind. Doesn’t sound like an oxymoron at all, does it?

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The other night on twitter I saw a “tweet” that encapsulated a man’s need to go to his cave when stressed out by relationship issues with his woman. With everything I have read that has explained the phenomenon to me, nothing has brought it home to me like this micro-post. It read, “Girls: Guys must get away from the source of their stress. When he’s in his ‘Nothing Box,’ he’s not mad, he’s simply de-stressing.” I’ve never heard of a man’s “nothing box” before but it is obviously the same thing as “the cave” reference that Dr. John Gray made popular two decades ago. I prefer “cave” because it sounds manly! The “nothing box” sounds like a diminishment of something that I have come to learn is very important to men.

When A Man Needs His Space

If the concept is new to you, let me explain it. However, new the concept is, it is a good bet you have experienced it! When a man and woman are in an argument, at some point the conversation breaks down because he has to get away. Whether he goes for a drive, picks up the newspaper and starts reading, or goes to his office or work room, the man needs space and he creates it. He creates it immediately without consulting you or asking your permission. Women tend to find this behavior dismissive and insulting.

The cave also looks like this – the man comes home at the end of his work day and he just isn’t interested in how your day went. He wants to sit back and relax. He wants the television or the newspaper or to disappear somewhere out of range. He doesn’t seem to want his woman’s company. That is not if she needs to talk. If she genuinely wants to sit quietly with him doing her own reading or watching TV, that’s great. However, he unwinds best without conversation and by creating space for himself.

As I write this, I have a chorus of women’s voices in my head screaming at me, “Don’t you dare justify this behavior in men!” Well, I apologize ladies; but, indeed, I am going to justify it. I can promise you this: if you will get on board with this phenomenon in men, your life and your relationship will improve.

Can A Man’s Need To Destress Make Your Relationship Better?

Joseph’s (my husband’s) and my podcast has given us the gift of talking with many high quality relationship experts this year. In fact, two of our early guests were Dan and Jennifer! The men who are out there writing and making a difference in relationships have consistently referred to how a man has to process his feelings on his own. They discuss the science of how men’s and women’s minds work differently. This has been very helpful because how our minds work goes back to prehistoric days when the differences sustained communities and saved lives.

For instance, have you noticed that when a man is driving in heavy traffic, he isn’t inclined to carry on lengthy, winding conversations with his woman? If you are in the middle of a conversation it will come to an abrupt end as the traffic gets all of his attention. This is because men are wired to protect. In situations where physical harm could occur, their focus becomes laser sharp on protecting. Conversation be damned! There have probably been countless arguments in the front seats of cars for decades because she was talking, his attention completely left her to focus on his driving, and she felt dismissed!

Over and over again, men who are relationship experts agree, men process their feelings on their own. It is hardwired into their chemistry and their physiology to separate themselves from the women they love when under stress with those women.

The Differences Between Men And Women

Women can talk for hours about everything they experience, think, and feel. Men cannot. It isn’t that they don’t want to. They can’t. Between Joseph and his men friends, they all know when one or more of them just can’t talk anymore. Between men it isn’t insulting for one or more of them to withdraw either physically, emotionally, or mentally when talking comes to the point of being overwhelming. Also, between Joseph and his men friends, the only thing they laugh at where their marriages are concerned is how they cannot keep up with their women’s talking and sharing.

Joseph and I talked about this quote, “Girls: Guys must get away from the source of their stress. When he’s in his ‘Nothing Box,’ he’s not mad, he’s simply de-stressing.” He said, “I know this sounds terrible, but it’s like dog training! You know how when training a dog, it tires the dog out because it forces the dog to think so much? Well, that’s how it is for men. We simply cannot keep up with our women when it comes to talking and sharing. It’s one reason we get angry about it. We cannot keep up with it and that causes us to feel shame. Once that shame button is switched on, the conversation is over.”

He went on to say that men are problem solvers. In all that talking, problems aren’t being solved. Therefore, all that talking is a source of stress. Eventually, the only way he can process the stress is to get away from it.

So how will a woman’s relationship improve when she accepts this masculine phenomenon? By accepting a man’s social and biological reality, she respects him. That respect of him translates into his love for her growing. Men adore women who respect them. It is as simple as that.

What I got so deeply out of that micro-post was this: it isn’t personal. When he goes to his cave, he is taking care of his needs. In a very real sense, it isn’t about me. Respecting his masculine process allows us both to relax and get back to the good stuff, living life together in love.

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There’s nothing like teasing to get your partner going…and when we say teasing, we really, really mean it! Learn the importance of building anticipation before sex and how it can play a role in both your partner’s ability to have a great orgasm and her overall sexual satisfaction.

Now that she’s relaxed, it time to build her sexual excitement with ‘anticipation’. Watch this video to see exactly what we mean… 

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Getting Her More Aroused

Your partner is relaxed and ready for sex. Do you just “stick it in?” Of course not! What a great way to spoil all of your hard work in getting her to relax! Now is the perfect time to build her anticipation for sex and get her completely aroused. Don’t just “go for the gold” and go straight down on her either – this is the part where you want to tease her and get her to absolutely beg for sexual release! Getting your partner properly aroused is essential to not only her pleasure, but yours! When a woman is aroused, she secrets vaginal lubrication, making sex more pleasurable for both you and her.

The Art Of Teasing

Going for the gold without getting her aroused is a great way to turn your partner off. Not only is it a mental and emotional turnoff for a woman (especially if you’ve spent all that time relaxing her and showering with her only for the actual sex to be over so quickly) but it can also be a physical turnoff. If her clitoris isn’t properly aroused and her vagina isn’t properly lubricated, direct clitoral stimulation can actually become painful.

To tease your partner, touch her on every area of her body but her clitoris. Of course you don’t want to ignore it completely, so give it a good lick or gentle rub every minute or so. However, it is better to spend most of this time massaging her breasts, licking her nipples, kissing her mouth and neck deeply, licking her thighs and letting your tongue rove in and out of her vaginal folds. Take your time during this part and your woman will become incredibly, inconsolably turned on – so much so that it would take a great deal to turn her off!

Make Your Move

Once you’ve gotten her completely aroused, feel free to proceed with sex as you please. Finish going down on her until she has a mind blowing orgasm, or have penetrating sex where you reach her g-spot. Either way, once your partner is not only relaxed, but sufficiently aroused and warmed up, your partner will be closer to an incredible orgasm than you or her could possibly imagine.

While the occasional quickie is something that shouldn’t be forgotton, use this sexy technique any time you want your partner to be totally, 100% involved in sex and thinking of nothing else. This is a technique you can use all the time – women rarely get tired of having a man focus totally on them and their arousal and pleasure!

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Most women know that men love blowjobs. Many women can adequately please their partners orally. But can YOU truly blow your partner’s mind when you give him head and have him absolutely begging for more?

Introducing: Jessica Perez’s #1 book, Blow His Mind Tonight. Never before have we seen a book so jam packed with useable information as we have in this book! Check it out:

• Did you know that your tongue is a muscle just like every other muscle in your body and exercising it will make it stronger and more powerful?
• Did you know the tongue can put six to eight pounds of pressure on a man’s penis?
• Did you know a great handjob can feel as good as a blowjob to a man if it’s done the right way?
• Do you know that a string of pearls, a silk scarf and a bag of Skittles can make your man’s toes curl?

If you’ve ever wanted to give your partner the kind of blowjob you know he wants, Jessica’s Blow His Mind Tonight book is not only a great place to get started with lots of exercises to help your mouth’s strength and stamina, but also a great place to get tons of ideas on what positions to use and what tongue techniques will work the best.

Not only is Jessica’s book great for beginners, it also contains a wealth of information for women who simply want to amp up their blowjob skills and increase their sexual skills.

If you’re ready to take the plunge and start learning about how to really turn your partner on, check out the awesome information that Jessica has in her incredible book:

• Learn correct tongue placement and easy tongue exercises that you can do anywhere, anytime to make your mouth a powerful pleasure deliverer!
• Find out the right way to breathe during a blowjob
• Learn how to make your hands baby bottom soft for that perfect handjob
• Test your blowjob abilities with two fun, before and after quizzes to see how much you’ve improved your oral sex skills
• The different parts of an orgasm, including arousal, ejaculation and recovery
• Learn how to give your partner the holy grail of blowjobs – deep throating – without gagging
• Learn dozens of different techniques to use during handjobs and blowjobs to give your man the ultimate pleasure

Before you download Jessica Perez’s Blow His Mind Tonight book, make sure you’re willing to put in the effort it takes to learn how to give your partner the ultimate head. While Jessica’s book is practically bursting at the seams with information, it’s not going to guarantee that you instantly become an oral sex goddess. The tips and techniques included in her book are things you actually have to do to make work, so make sure you’re willing to invest your time into learning how to give your partner an amazing blowjob.

If you think you have what it takes to learn tongue exercises, handjob techniques, blowjob techniques and the ultimate deep throating techniques to really blow your partner’s mind, download Blow His Mind Tonight and get started!

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